Do you feel embarrassed when your children misbehave and leave you wondering what more you can do to instil good behaviour in them? If this question seems to haunt you then, this blog post is going to help you understand a more in-depth perspective on why children misbehave and even give tools on how to tackle it.
All kids misbehave, they break the rules, talkback, get aggressive, and rebel beyond reason. You must understand what influences their bad behaviour.So, here are six ways to tackle this challenge and how to teach good behaviour to your kids.
- Recognize how kids think: Since duality exists in everything in this complex world, the bad behaviour in kids is due to the confusion caused by this. There are going to be striking differences that your child will observe as soon as he steps out of his home. And this difference only gets more substantial and bolder with their age. So, at every developmental level, your child is going to test you. So, when your child tests you, become an example of the values you preach.
- Make discipline fun: While disciplining kids can be difficult, and often this becomes an apparent reason for kids to misbehave, you can handle this with a different perspective. Help your kids see discipline similar to the next level of a video game, something challenging and exciting rather than some rule that they cannot break. You will surely see some spectacular results in them.
- Set clear expectations: Often, as a parent, you underestimate your child’s ability to understand and overestimate their capacity to perform. This sends across mixed and confusing signals to your child, and they resort to rebel out of this chaos. Children love clarity. The moment things are clear in their mind, there is a distinct change in their behaviour. So, while setting out guidance strategies ensure that you take into account their developmental level.
- Regulate their negative impulse: In today’s times, it is becoming challenging to teach impulse control because they are used to instant gratification. Impulse control isn’t an innate characteristic. It is a learned skill, and you can proactively teach them.
- Don’t reward their misbehaviour: Every time you yell at your child, you are giving attention. Although this is a negative way of giving attention, their misconduct just got rewarded. The best way to handle this is to control your outpour of emotions and talk minimal during such times. You need to be balanced in your mind before you ask them to behave appropriately.
- Tell them why: Kids are more rational in their thinking than what you feel. So instead of directly imposing a rule on them, explain to them why it is essential. There is no need for elaborate explanations. Giving them simple reasons is enough for them to consider and follow.
As you guide your child through this process, remind yourself that you too were a kid years ago, and tantrums were a part of your personality too. Now, apply these tips and help your kids to imbibe phenomenal life skills.